“Something Seemed Off”
"He always seemed really *off* to me, he wasn't willing or capable of forming important work relationships within the company but I'm not sure how that translates to a domestic situation "
-JP ~Dan's former coworker
*People with Schizoid and or Covert Narcissistic personality disorders( or a crossover NPD/ASPD)are often described by others as aloof, cold, and detached. Those who have the disorder may prefer being alone, but some may also experience social isolation as a result.
*Those with these disorders also tend to have few friendships, date rarely, and if they do marry, they treat their spouse as a roommate with spousal duties. The symptoms of these disorders may also make it difficult to work in positions that require a lot of social interaction or people skills. People with a schizoid and NPD combined personality disorders do better in jobs that involve working in solitude.
If we apply these characteristics to the family dynamic how DOES this translate to a domestic situation?
NPD/ASPD/SCHIZOID did not develop the necessary relationship skills that would allow them to skillfully negotiate the interpersonal issues that arise from living with someone else. Mostly this leads to emotional neglect of a spouse and children, sometimes turning into actual full neglect of a child's needs(human interaction, showing affection, bonding, clothing, food, medical appointments, extra curricular activities and school functions)
If this sounds familiar to you please reach out!
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NOTES
SCHIZOID personality disorder
People with this condition don't desire or enjoy close relationships, even with family, and are often seen as loners. They may be emotionally cold and detached.
People may experience:
Common symptoms: social isolation, indifferent to praise, lack of close friends, limited range of emotions, reduced sex drive, or relationship avoidance
Sources: *Mayo Clinic
NARCISSISTIC (NPD)
Symptoms include an excessive need for admiration, disregard for others' feelings, an inability to handle any criticism, and a sense of entitlement.
People may experience:
Common symptoms: grandiosity, callous and unemotional traits, disregard for others' feelings, excessive need for admiration, or social isolation
ANTI-SOCIAL (ASPD)
Those with antisocial personality disorder tend to lie, break laws, act impulsively, and lack regard for their own safety or the safety of others. Symptoms may lessen with age.
People may experience:
Behavioral: antisocial behavior, deceitfulness, hostility, irresponsibility, manipulativeness, risk taking behaviors, aggression, impulsivity, irritability, or lack of restraint
Mood: anger, boredom, or general discontent
